EAST OF THE HEART
Chapter Two: The Arrival
The groom’s family had sent two chaperones to escort Mei Yee
from her village to Penang. One of the chaperones was an older woman, and the
other was a younger man who basically took orders from the older woman. It was
the chaperones' job to ensure that the “bride-to-be” would arrive safely into
Penang. Mei Yee later found out that the older lady chaperone was actually one
of the Groom’s aunts. She told Mei Yee to address her as “Aunty Bee Yoke”.
Aunty Bee Yoke had come to the village at the request of the
Groom’s family in order to inspect the “bride-to-be”. She had to make certain
that Mei Yee was of childbearing age, and was healthy in every sense of the word. With her approval on sight, Mei Yee then
left with them. Later, aunty Bee Yoke also explained that Mei Yee’s mother had
been corresponding with a distant relative in Malaya, and arranged for this
marriage. The relative in Malaya had convinced her mother that the Groom was
from a wealthy reputable family in Penang, and Mei Yee would be well taken care
of. Aunty Bee Yoke asserted that Mei Yee had nothing to worry about from here
on.
Their journey to Penang from Shanghai would take more than a
week by sea, depending on the weather. Aunty Bee Yoke had secured a “third
class” cabin for Mei Yee and herself. It had four bunk beds and a washbasin in
the middle. There were no windows. They had to share the tiny room aboard the
steamship with two other ladies from Shanghai. The two ladies were also
traveling to Penang to start their new jobs as seamstresses at their mutual
relative’s shop. They also hoped to find better marital prospects in Penang.
Mei Yee was the youngest amongst them.
During that week onboard the vessel, Mei Yee became rather
ill. She had not been on a boat before this, much less a ship. She found the
motions of the sea extremely nauseating. She had to rest in the cabin for the
most part of their journey. Aunty Bee Yoke did not improve the situation by
“educating” Mei Yee on what she was expected to do in the Groom’s household. In
addition, she informed Mei Yee that everything had been arranged – from Mei
Yee’s “pre-wedding” room, to the wedding ceremony itself, to the
“wedding-night” room, and to the “after-wedding” official residence. The
Groom’s family had their own peculiar traditions, and it was imperative for Mei
Yee to assimilate herself with them. Aunty Bee Yoke gave her a list to recite
and commit to memory.
THE LIST:-
1)
Upon
arrival, Mei Yee would be presented to the matriarch of the family, Mrs. Wong.
She must greet Mrs. Wong appropriately, as she would be her daughter-in-law
soon.
2)
Then
she would be shown to her “pre-wedding” room. This would be temporary residence
for two weeks before the actual wedding ceremony.
3)
Prior
to the ceremony, the bride must not be seen out and about - especially by the
Groom. She should only stay within her own quarters. She must not venture about
the house freely without a servant, or suitable escort. There were only a few
rooms within the household which the ladies in the family are permitted to
gather or meet.
4)
She
would be expected to join the ladies in the family at all meal times - that
would mean breakfast, lunch and dinner. On some occasions, she might be invited
to tea with the other ladies in the household when they hold an audience with
Mrs. Wong. She must be suitably attired at all times. Mrs. Wong had already
arranged a wardrobe of “approved” clothing in her room. The men in the Wong
household never dine with the ladies unless it was a festive occasion, such as
weddings, Mrs. Wong’s birthday, Chinese New Year reunion dinner and so on.
5)
A list
of protocol and guidelines would be explained to her during the first week of
her stay. She would be wise to remember them well.
6)
At any
time of the day, Mrs. Wong may summon her for whatever purpose and reason.
Therefore, she must always be prepared.
7)
Under
no circumstances would she be allowed to issue any instructions to other maids
and helpers in the household, other than her own.
8)
If she
should require anything in addition to what had already been provided for, then
she must seek counsel with Mrs. Wong and obtain her approval.
9)
She
would not be allowed to go out of the house on her own unless she had received
explicit permission from Mrs. Wong, and a fitting escort would be provided.
10) She must learn and adhere to the duties of a
daughter-in-law together with the other daughters-in-law of the household.
There would be daily morning prayers to be made, as well as evening prayers. In
addition, there would be monthly prayers to the ancestors, and annual prayers.
A calendar would be given out every year with all the important dates marked.
11) She must never gossip. Mrs. Wong absolutely detested females
who indulged in idle chatter.
12) Proof of her virginity on the wedding night
would be of utmost importance. This was to be carried out in the special
“wedding night” room.
13) If she had failed to provide the family with
any male child, then her husband would have the complete right to take on
another wife to do the job.
14) After the wedding night, she would move into
her husband’s formal residence. This would become her permanent home.
Aunty Bee Yoke had made Mei Yee read the list every single day. It made Mei Yee feel much worse each
time. Mei Yee was beginning to worry about how she would cope. Nothing in her
life had prepared her for this. The list
gave her the impression that she was not getting married, but receiving a
prison sentence without any hope of a reprieve. Above all, she was very
apprehensive about her “soon-to-be” mother-in-law. Mrs. Wong was obviously the
matriarch of the whole family, and her words would be LAW in the household. Mei
Yee began to suspect that the likelihood of her getting along well with Mrs.
Wong, would be as sure as “the porridge
turning into rice”. This was part of a common Chinese proverb in her
village. Once rice has turned into porridge, it would be irreversible.
When the steamship had finally docked at the Penang port,
Mei Yee felt queasy again. The sight of her future looked bleak and utterly
confusing. A set of trishaws took them from the port through the streets, and
nothing looked familiar. There were buildings, schools, churches, temples and
shops. Penang was not exactly as progressive and modern like Shanghai but it
was definitely more advanced than her village in Fujian. Houses were very
different in Penang, especially the Wong Mansion. It was a huge masonry
building with three stories, and a large surrounding garden.
Cautiously, Mei Yee alighted from the trishaw and followed
Aunty Bee Yoke through the imposing main entrance doors. The visitor’s hall was
truly impressive with a huge crystal chandelier hanging in the middle. Wealth
was evident from every corner of the room. There were many corridors that led
to various rooms. It was like a maze. The two ladies weaved their way through a
long hallway and reached a small sitting room where an elderly lady sat,
dressed in all her fine silk and jewelry. Mei Yee had only seen brides on their
wedding day dressed with such regalia in her village. It was not everyday
attire from where she came from.
The elderly lady was addressing a group of household staff, while
waiting for Mei Yee’s arrival. When she finally saw Mei Yee, she did not rise
or smile. She only acknowledged aunty Bee Yoke and Mei Yee after she had spoken
with her servants.
“Big sister, I trust you have been well. May I introduce
your “soon-to-be” daughter-in-law, Lim Mei Yee,” Aunty Bee Yoke said with
reverence, laced with a little fear.
This was the first time Mei Yee witnessed how very polite
and timid aunty Bee Yoke behaved. Aunty Bee Yoke was visibly afraid of her
elder sister. Then she tugged at Mei Yee’s blouse. That was her cue to greet
the grand older woman.
“Good morning, Mrs. Wong. It is an honour to meet you. Thank
you for allowing me to become a part of your great family.” Mei Yee said
nervously and bowed.
Mrs. Wong looked at Mei Yee closely and motioned for her to
come forward. She started to inspect Mei Yee for herself.
“A little on the skinny side, I see.” Mrs. Wong remarked.
“Believe me, big sister, she is the best from the village.”
Aunty Bee Yoke added.
Then Mrs. Wong introduced Mei Yee to her personal
maid-in-waiting, “Ah Ping”. Ah Ping would be attending to Mei Yee throughout
her stay in the Wong household. Apparently, it was customary for every mistress
and master in the household to have their personal maid or manservant. These
personal servants would follow and serve their assigned mistress or master till
they die. In fact, all the servants in the Wong household belonged to the
family, and would not leave until it was the time of their death. Mei Yee began
to realize that her fate was no different from theirs.
“Ah Ping will take you to your pre-wedding quarters. This is
where you will stay for the next two weeks until the wedding ceremony. We have
strict rules and traditions in this family. We consider it very bad luck for
the Groom to see his bride before the wedding. And besides, we need to prepare
you before the wedding. It would not do at all if our guests saw how scrawny
you are. They would think that we did not feed you enough. By the day of the
wedding, you’ll have to be a lot heavier than you are now. Only manual
labourers are thin in Penang. Portliness and prosperity go hand in hand.” Mrs.
Wong explained sternly.
It was then Mrs. Wong noticed Mei Yee’s feet and her eyes
widened in shock.
“Your feet…were they not bound when you were young?” Mrs.
Wong was appalled.
“I did not like how they had restricted my mobility. So, I
had refused to have my feet bound.” Mei Yee answered earnestly.
There was a moment of tensed silence. Mrs. Wong stared at
Mei Yee. She was tempted to say something, but refrained herself. Mei Yee could
feel the matriarch’s eyes slicing into every limb of her body.
“You’d be most wise to embrace every single tradition of
this family. This family owns you now. You’ll live here, as a daughter-in-law
of the Wong Family, and you’ll die here to become a ghost of the Wong Family.
See that you do not forget.” Mrs. Wong declared her first and only warning.
A tight knot churned inside Mei Yee’s stomach. She neither
replied nor nodded her head. She simply looked at Mrs. Wong with dread. This
would be the beginning of an agonizing ever after.
(To be continued in
Chapter Three)
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