Tuesday, December 11, 2012

A Compelling Piece by Jada Pinkett-Smith

Jada Pinkett-Smith Speaks Against Human Trafficking, 2012
After slaying critics in defense of her daughter Willow, outspoken actress and activist Jada Pinkett-Smith took to Facebook today to drop some knowledge on how the degradation of women has resulted in problems for both sexes.
As we look at societies where the women are lost, struggling for education and otherwise disregarded, versus those who consider women the center of their communities, Jada‘s words ring all the more truer. Read what she has to say below:
How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an incomplete woman? The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only.
The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes.
I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection.
There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer.
He doesn’t recognize that the [creation] of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize.
He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him four children.
When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.
Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.
May we all find our way. 


I am not sharing this because I hate men or that I am a Taliban-Feminist. I am sharing this because I am profoundly concerned about the relationship between men and women, regardless of their ethnicity. How a man and woman carry their deepest regard for one another in their minds and hearts need to be refined, retuned or at the very least, re-visited. A higher respect and understanding is a MUST in order for men and women to treat each other way much better than now.

As every man is blessed with a stronger physique than most women, they need to understand their role in not using their brute strength in harming women in any way, but in valuing the unique vulnerability of a woman. The same can be said for their NOT taking advantage of a woman's weakness but to uphold her "divine" right to evolve and grow in the same manner as a man deserves to do the same.

I have seen in many cases, more than I care to recall, despite their age or race, the way some men treat women are just deplorable. Especially, wealthy successful men. 

To me, it is NOT enough that a man makes a huge load of money and then he turns around have affairs and disrespects his wife as well as children. Wealth and power do not give any man the right to misbehave or behave appallingly.

A successful man does not need to ever demean or belittle any other human being. Especially, his own spouse or life partner.The way a man treats his wife and family IS a telling sign of how great a man he is. 

Of course, there is the flip side to this - there are women who would just throw themselves at men, and they do not care whether these men are married, single, or engaged. They will still continue to pursue the men who are already "taken". 

Lately, these types of women have been mostly nationalities of a certain country. And yes, it is not a joke at how many marriages have been broken up, and families torn apart as a result. However, I also recognise that I speak from a very comfortable position. I have never known what it is like to be hungry, desperate and driven to the point that I would do anything and more just get myself out of a terrible position in life. So, I cannot simply judge. I do know that.

But knowing that still does not resolve the problems. 

My questions are simply these -  

How is a man's greatness reflected on the way he treats the women around him? 

How will he define the essence of his character or identity through a woman?

The very same questions apply to women as well.

These are not easy subject matters. Many people will have their points of views, enforced by their own personal issues. But if you can understand why I post this article and questions, perhaps we can start looking at ourselves and begin the true journey of relationship evolution between a man and a woman.

At the end of the day, I truly wish that as we grow and advance in this world, we will also evolve into better people and uphold higher set of values - together and not separately.


As Jada Pinkett-Smith said, "MAY WE ALL FIND OUR WAY".

This shall be my birthday wish for this year.


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